Social Language Milestones

Pragmatics is the way we use our language in social settings. For example, how to start a conversation, interpreting body language, understanding different perspectives, and using sarcasm. Pragmatic language is typically learned incidentally (learned through experience) but with some children, it may need to be directly taught. Pragmatic language begins to develop as an infant and continues to grow and form until the high school years. Below is a list of “milestones” to expect along with activities/strategies to enhance social language. 

Infant (3-12 months)

• Starts making eye contact

• Reaching 

• Participates in parallel play (playing next to caregiver, sibling) 

• Participates vocal turn taking

• Uses vocalizations to request, protest, express feelings 

Activities: Peek-a-boo, stacking blocks, waving, songs, nursery rhymes

Toddler (12-36 months) 

• Imitates routines

• Imitates other children

• Uses words (12 months)/phrases (18 months)/sentences (30 months) to request, protest, express feelings

• Asks questions

• Begins at 18 months

• Initiates pretend play (ex: playing in toy kitchen, pushing trucks/cars, playing with baby doll)

• Begins at 18 months

• Takes two turns in conversation

• Begins to describe/retell events 

• Begins to return/initiate greetings by waving 

Activities: Ask questions during pretend play (“What’s baby doing? Where are they going?”), “sabotage” by putting toys out of reach, shared reading activities, scrapbooks to encourage retelling 

Preschool (3-5 years)

• Uses language for teasing, joking, fantasies 

• Starts to share with others

• Joint play with peers (participating in others play schemes, including self in play) 

• Theory of Mind: Understanding that others have different beliefs 

• Begins at 4 years

• Produces narratives as “chain”

• Takes 4-5 conversational turns 

• Improves describing skills to repair communication breakdowns

• Begins to inference/predict 

• Participates in turn-taking games

Activities: Sequence 3-4 pictures and retell story, give simple riddles (i.e., “This is an animal that lives on the farm and says ‘Moo’”), play “Go Fish” or “Bingo”

School age (5-11 years)

• Invites others to play 

• Initiates conversations with familiar topics (ex: school, weather, weekend) 

• Problem solving (individually and in a group) 

• Begins 6-8 years old

• Gives and responds to compliments 

• Tells and understands jokes of greater complexity 

• Politely interrupts 

• Responds to and uses facial expressions (ex: smiles, frowns, looks of surprise) 

• Recognizes spatial boundaries 

Activities: Practice multiple meaning words, Apples to Apples, Emotion charades, Red Light Green Light 

Middle/High School (11-18 years)

• Recognizes if listener is interested or bored 

• Shifts topics during lulls in conversation 

• Understands difference between friends/acquaintances

• Engages in collaborative discussions 

Activities: Would You Rather questions, book club, Let’s Talk Conversation Starters

If you notice delays in the way your child is using social language such as having difficulty making friends, understanding body language, or maintaining age-appropriate conversations, schedule a screening with an SLP at BDI Playhouse today!